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When Isn't It Love - Or When Has Love Ended? (Part 2)

7th May 2025

When It’s Not Really Love

Sometimes, what we think is love turns out to be something else wearing love’s clothing.

  • Attachment without connection: You may feel you need someone — you can’t bear to be without them — but that doesn’t always mean you love them. Sometimes it’s fear of loneliness, habit, or dependency.
  • Infatuation: This can feel electric and overwhelming, but it’s often based on fantasy more than reality. You’re in love with who you want the person to be,not who they actually are.
  • Control or possession: Love is often confused with wanting to keep someone close, limit their freedom, or make them ours. But true love allows the other person to be fully themselves — not an extension of our needs or insecurities.
  • Gratitude or obligation: Sometimes we stay in relationships because someone has cared for us, or we feel indebted. That’s not the same as love, though gratitude can certainly coexist with it.

Signs Love May Be Over

Even real, deep love can fade or transform — and that doesn’t mean it was never true. But how can you tell when the love between adults has shifted or perhaps quietly ended?

  • You stop caring about each other’s inner worlds. You no longer feel curious about their thoughts, dreams, or struggles. Conversations become shallow or transactional.
  • Resentment outweighs affection. All relationships have moments offrustration, but when resentment becomes the dominant feeling, it erodeslove’s foundation.
  • You feel relief at distance, not longing. Time apart no longer makes you miss them — it feels like freedom.
  • Physical or emotional intimacy disappears, and you don’t mind.Intimacy changes over time, but when its absence doesn’t trouble you, it may point to a deeper disconnection.
  • You stop being a team. You no longer work toward shared goals, and your life paths drift further apart.
  • You fantasize about life without them — and feel peaceful. It’s natural to wonder “what if,” but if the thought of ending the relationship consistently brings more calm than sorrow, it may be time to listen to that.

When to Let Go (and When to Hold On)

Not every rough patch means love is gone. Love can be quiet, bruised, or tired — and still alive. Relationships often go through seasons, some stormier than others.

But when the core tenderness, respect, and care have been replaced byindifference, contempt, or emptiness — it may no longer be love that’s holdingthings together, but habit, fear, or duty.

Letting go, then, can sometimes be the most loving act — for both people.

Love Doesn’t Always End Badly

It’s worth remembering that love doesn’t always vanish because of harm or betrayal. Sometimes people simply outgrow each other. Sometimes lovetransforms — from romantic to platonic, or from passionate to peaceful caring.That’s not failure; that’s the natural unfolding of life.

Final Thoughts

Love is one of our most profound human experiences, but it isn’t meant to be a prison or a burden. When love is over, we often know — deep down — even if it takes time to admit it to ourselves. And sometimes even if it was it love to begin with? We discover that only by learning, hurting, and growing.

What matters most is that we approach endings — or realizations of “not love” — with the same grace and honesty we bring to beginnings.

Because every ending shapes who we become for the next chapter — and every ending can open the door to new forms of love.

Look out for Part 3  - How to Heal When Love Ends

Love Anya P xx

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