I often used to think that being vulnerable was a weakness and so would protect myself from harm by putting up barriers, recalling events of when a person hurt me to remind me not to trust them so I would not fall into the same situation, so that I would not be vulnerable to their charms, their chatter, their influence again. I put up my barriers, how good I thought this was keeping myself out of harm’s way, protecting myself from being vulnerable, how safe I felt, I scrutinised and analysed things more than usual including situations and people. It felt better this way, I believed this was the better way, after all, is this not learning from past mistakes, lessons in life? This was what I thought was right for me at that time to protect myself as I thought Vulnerability was a weakness.
Then I found and learnt well actually NO. Vulnerability is in fact not a weakness it is a strength. It turned my perception of my thought processed on its head, how could this be, surely not!! Then I got to thinking about it. Yes, I thought it is correct, I believe it is a strength. If we are not vulnerable, how can we feel, how can we experience the emotions, how can we let the love in, the people and experiences into our lives? If we have the barriers up, scrutinise, analyse and protect ourselves, whom are we protecting ourselves from? Are we not protecting ourselves from ourselves!! We are protecting ourselves from experiencing emotions such as love, hurt, laughter, experiencing and releasing emotional blocks.
If we concentrate on observing or analysing people, in a mistrusting way, looking at situations based on how we have been treated historically, being so aware, we are basing our present and future perceptions based on past events. Remember we are co-creators of our reality too, so again are we not bringing the same situations to us again? This happened to me a number of times.
So in conclusion I believe, vulnerability is now a good thing, to experience life, to let me feel the emotions, NOT block them, accept people and situations as they are; nor on any perceptions based on past events, but accepting life for what it is in the here and now. By experiencing Life as it is I am opening myself up to new and exciting opportunities and being vulnerable is okay too, it is a part of life, there is no escaping it. Imagine if we had never loved and blocked ourselves off from never loving again because of fear of being hurt again, blocked emotions because of being vulnerable; as they say, it is better to have loved than have never loved at all.
So let love flow, let life flow, let your experiences flow, have strength knowing that being vulnerability is nothing to fear, it is an emotion like laughter, accept it for what it is, an emotion.
Once you view it differently your life may look very differently and your perception may change, mine did. Welcome the new, there is nothing to fear, fear is an emotion too.
Be all that you can be.
Love and Many Blessings.