Tarot Readings to help with Relationships
The area of life I am most drawn to and have experience in helping others with is matters of the heart… Relationships with all of their misunderstandings obstacles, pleasures, pain and ability to totally transform us. There are so many societal misrepresentations of romantic love and what it means to be with someone in an honest and fulfilling way that it can leave many people feeling somewhat confused and let down if a connection does not work out when it felt so right...
Everyone has a unique relationship history and yet we all desire to be understood by a partner to feel in harmony and to heal past hurts move beyond difficulties and share our lives with another thus enriching and feeling what it is like to be close to another and to build a bond of trust.
When I do a relationship reading I am very direct and have an ability to get to the core of the issue in question. This sometimes involves looking at one’s relationship patterns that surface. These are usually shown through the cards as karmic lessons to be addressed and learned from, which brings a great relief to the querent once the pattern on either side of the relationship are identified.
For example communication is a very common point of conflict with couples and yet when it is filled with a desire for understanding can indeed move mountains, dissolving past hurts and clearing up misinterpreted emotions.
Many times during a reading I can feel that a partner has been trying to voice a deep emotion but it has come out with a defensive edge and therefore been misunderstood by the querent. This is when I can be a clear voice for the other and express what was meant to be said instead of it coming out as a mixed messaged cloaked with a fear of rejection. This has really helped many people in their ways of relating and I love to hear how it had a domino effect later on shedding some understanding on how sometimes people want to say one thing and it gets lost in the actual expression!
If appropriate I encourage communication of emotions as I find this really is the key that catapults relationships forward. I hear though so many times people expecting that their partner should somehow ‘know’ what they are feeling or even thinking. With increased sensitivity this does indeed happen but the habit of putting your needs feelings and thoughts into clear words easily understood can be seemingly miraculous and taken for granted only because it is actually simple once the habit is formed and your special language together is created.
Giving Feelings a Name
Feeling angry, sad and anxious it means you are human displaying basic human emotions to survive.
If this sounds counterintuitive, read on.
In scientific research study of the brain discovered that
In one MRI study, appropriately titled “Putting Feelings into Words” participants viewed pictures of people with emotional facial expressions. Predictably, each participant’s amygdala activated to the emotions in the picture. But when they were asked to name the emotion, the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex activated and reduced the emotional amygdala reactivity. In other words, consciously recognizing the emotions reduced their impact. You need to use just a few words to describe an emotion, and ideally use symbolic language, which means using indirect metaphors, metrics, and simplifications of your experience. This requires you to activate your prefrontal cortex, which reduces the arousal in the limbic system. Here’s the bottom line: describe an emotion in just a word or two, and it helps reduce the emotion.
So within a card spread I can identify many things to enable a relationship to flourish and to also tune in to weather this relationship will give you what you need long term and to identify what the connection is about and how it can unfold