Co-dependent relationships usually come around when one or even both partners have some level of insecurity about themselves. You’ll spend more time in the relationship feeling bad than feeling good. Yes, it can be hard to break away, but this is usually just down to habit, not love.
Relationships are built on trust, honesty, compatibility, compromise, to name just a few things. It’s when the stuff I’ve mentioned above is missing that the cracks will soon appear.
Your partner maybe doesn’t like you going out without them, or starts questioning you about where you’re going and who with. They’re not asking in a good way, like they’re interested to know, more in a hostile way, making you feel not so good about having time with friends or family without them. This is usually one of the first warning signs and they can come about early on in a relationship.
Many allow this to pass and the relationship then gets deeper. You spend more time together, which in turn makes it harder to get out. We then get issues where maybe they’re bringing you down in some way, how you speak, how you dress. When these things start to happen we lose confidence in ourselves, we believe what that person is saying is correct and before you know it, you will actually believe what they say!
The list goes on and on and on and there’s not enough room on my blog to name them all. But it is my firm belief that we do have our intuition kicking in and giving us the warning signs. Sadly many ignore this and then find that they are stuck in a co-dependent relationship. If you can really listen to your heart, your intuition, you’ll know that it is not right and there is a way out. That way is simply to recognise the problem isn’t with you, it’s the person you’re involved with who doesn’t have enough love for themselves. That’s it. Plain and simple! If you feel there can be a chance for it to work, then it then takes a lot of trust, compromise to do so. Two of you must be as open as you can be to sort through the problem. Always remember, where there is a will there is a way.
Anything can be worked through if both of you are looking in the same direction and can talk openly about how you feel when they start behaving in a manner which does not bring about a healthy, long-lasting relationship.
Thanks for reading, if you would like to discuss relationships please give me a call.
Michelle – PIN 500586